Accountability: It’s not you……It’s Me!

“It’s not you……..It’s Me…,” I’m sure you’ve heard this popular “break up” line that people use when they want to end a relationship without hurting the other person’s feelings. By telling someone, “It’s not you, It’s me,” you’re pretty much saying that you’re taking full responsibility or blame for the reason of the break up, thus preventing the other person from having “hurt” feelings…..But, I’m going to take this line and apply it to life in  a different way….

When I say, “It’s not you, It’s Me,” I mean being accountable for ones own actions in life, simply allowing yourself  to be accountable and looking at what “You” do first, before paying attention to what another is or isn’t doing. I feel accountability is a concept that many adults have trouble grasping, or have not grasped at all, and I say this because if we did the world would have less problems and life would be easier in general. I’ve been put to the test many times, curve balls thrown my way and I’m getting better at not pointing the finger, even in my mind lol, when a confrontation or disagreement, or misunderstanding arises. This is not easy to do at all, but it’s helped calm me inside when I become frustrated at someone for not  behaving they way I feel they are supposed to. By not lashing out, name calling, playing the blame game, I maintain my dignity, and give myself more time to think about my reaction before and after, and  what  I would’ve done differently to prevent the situation from going “there”……..

I remember once as a child, my mother sat me in the corner, and I hated it! I would’ve preferred the other usual forms of punishment because sitting in the corner forces you to have to think about what YOU did, your actions, even if there was another involved in the reason that put you there in the first place!

So, instead of focusing on what “their” not doing, I will concentrate on what I’m supposed to be doing because, I’m the one who has to live with myself regardless of another’s actions. But don’t get me wrong, I’m not excusing the bad behaviour of another, but at the end of the day, people do what they choose to……….So what are you going to do?


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